“But, speaking the truth in love…”: The Place of Higher Ed in Civil Discourse

"Civil discourse is a critical skill for citizens in any democratic society. In our increasingly polarized culture, it can be challenging to embody a spirit of humility, compassion, and patience. Our world is filled with beautifully diverse ideas and perspectives, and many college campuses are grappling with how to navigate important global conversations in this context. In this article written by Palm Beach Atlantic University (PBA) Wordship Director and Professor of Communication and Media Ecology Dr. Stephanie Bennett, she shares how Christian colleges can encourage civil discourse rooted in Christ's love and compassion." - PBA President Dr. Debra A. Schwinn

The health of any faith community is bound to the gift of speech. As Christ-followers we have a responsibility to use our words in ways that point to the light of the Lord, but there are increasingly new challenges to using our speech in ways that are wise and respectful.

No one needs to be persuaded that the communication climate in America has eroded. Freedom of speech has long been a part of our national pride but of late has degenerated into a polarized mess. Numerous reasons exist that account for America's dysfunctional plight, but the solution remains the same.

We are called to use our voices to speak the "truth in love." The great apostle Paul put it this way: "we should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting, but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head-Christ…" Ephesians 4:14-15 (NKJV, emphasis added)

Why Christ-Centered Conversations Matter

We are called to speak the truth, but in a particular way. Jesus didn't react with disdain to every accusation and foul word that came his way. He didn't have a megaphone or mic. Jesus led his followers with conviction and boldness, gentleness and humility. His tone and his teaching were marked by attributes that made it clear he was in tune with His Father.

There are numerous ways we endeavor to do this on the campus of PBA. It is seen in our steady commitment to the liberal arts, an overarching integration of faith with learning, and spiritual formation threaded through all we do. We endeavor to teach the whole person. One particular way we do this is with events that allow students to use their voices in forums and discussion panels that help them grapple with tough subjects. That effort is called Wordship.

Now in its sixth year, each Wordship event provides an opportunity to wrestle with subjects that have a wide spectrum of interpretation. Whether it's a panel of experts, a guest speaker, or group exercises, Wordship cultivates uneasy conversations, so that students have the opportunity to listen, evaluate, and address topics that occupy speech in the public square. Wordship is one of the many ways we remind each other that God's love is the most convincing tonic for society's ills-not screaming, reacting, cursing, or raising our voice above the noisy din.

Teaching Future Leaders to Listen

Speaking the "truth in love" is more than a good idea; it is a way of being in the world to which all Christians are called, and it starts with understanding what it means to be made in the image of God. From there, it continues as we practice what it means to truly listen to another. As we listen with discipline and compassion, we learn to become more curious and respectful of others instead of defensive or dominating.

Certainly, the family and the church each have a major role in communicating with love, and higher ed is not exempt. Christian institutions must take the lead in modeling the worshipful use of our words. The need to adjust our tone is more apparent than ever. We don't need to be the loudest voice in the room to share the hope that is within us. Learning to listen for the still small voice of God requires diligence and discerning. As we do, we can speak that word out with respect and dignity. Teaching the next generation to bring the light of Christ to a dark and hurting world is a calling we can all take up. Christian higher education must remain in steadfast commitment to ours.

Dr. Stephanie Bennett is professor of communication and media ecology at PBA. She teaches at the intersection of faith, communication, and culture and is the author of six books. Her latest is published by Integratio Press and titled, "Relationships on the Run: How to Grow Authentic Connections and Lasting Intimacy in a Hurried Culture."